Have you heard about this?
As initially reported in the Toronto Star , Kathy Witterick and David Stocker, have chosen to keep the gender of their 4 month old baby, Storm, a secret.
The Toronto couple hopes that Storm will form his or her own definition of gender roles instead of the roles pushed onto children by society.
Witterick has said that this decision is a tribute to freedom and choice in a place of limitation.
In reality, the mother is attempting to protect her child, saying that it is demonstrated in research and the day to day world that gender stereotyping causes suffering to both men and women.
The parents wholeheartedly believe that they are giving their children the freedom to choose who they want to be, unconstrained by social norms about males and females.
To be clear, let me begin by saying something that should go without saying: God designed men and women differently.
Both men and women express characteristics of the Father, as we are told,
27 God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:27)
There is a distinction, a purposeful difference between men and women, that was set in motion by God.
In that sense, gender is something to be embraced and not rejected, hidden or manipulated. It is not a limitation, but rather a God designed part of my identity.
Baby Storm’s parents are seeking to offer their child freedom and choice in a place of limitation.
By shunning the stereotypes of gender, they feel they are offering their child freedom.
As Christians, we don’t fight the ills of our world by shunning our God given identity.
3 For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. 4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. (II Corinthians 10:3-4)
With God’s Truth we are able to demolish the lies perpetuated by our culture, lies about gender, social status, and appearances.
We each have lies that we believe about ourselves, and they’re not just about gender. Some of the other lies include:
- You’re not good enough.
- You’re not pretty enough.
- You’re not skinny enough.
- You’re not smart enough.
- You’re not rich enough.
- You’re just a girl.
- You’re just a boy.
These lies can take root in our hearts and destroy our God given identity.
But, because He lives in me, I can tear those lies apart with my spiritual kung-fu skillz.
On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ . (II Corinthians 10:4-5)
The lies? Drop kick ‘em outta here.
I don’t need ‘em. They don’t determine my course in life. They do not define who I am.
My fears, my insecurities, my pain, the things that hold me back…all of those things are broken, demolished and shattered when I take on my identity in Christ, and gain the freedom that only He can give.
1It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. (Galations 5:1)
So, what does my new identity look like? I find a description in Ephesians 1:4-9
4 For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.
In love 5 He predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— 6 to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.
7 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace 8 that he lavished on us.
With all wisdom and understanding,
9 He made known to us the mystery of His will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, 10 to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.
Locks on Cages
The band Tenth Avenue North has written a song entitled “Empty My Hands” that beautifully expresses the way in which we often succomb to the lies.
And, although His power within me allows me to demolish those lies, I’m still susceptible to them.
These voices in speak instead and what’s right is wrong
And I’m giving into them, please Lord, how long
Will I be held captive by the lies that I believe
My heart’s in constant chaos and it keeps me so deceived
But, that deception can be turned into His Truth. It requires prayer and daily surrender.
So empty my hands
Fill up my heart
Capture my mind with You